The Quote, I DIDN’T live by but I loved
For years, I had the quote above the windows in my bedroom. It was the first five words I saw every day. I loved the saying and smiled every morning when I read it. Sometimes I would say the words aloud. Then one day, I realized I wasn’t living those words of wisdom. I realized that although I made a good salary, lived in a great neighborhood and had amazing children- my life felt empty.
I slowly created goals and worked toward them. My ultimate goal was to reinvent myself. The process was long and it required me to face many fears and learn how to balance them. I had to take a long look at myself and see some of my negative patterns before the reinventing began.
I thought moving to the city of my dreams and starting a new job at one of the top schools in the country would place me on the path of living the life of my dreams. What I realized was those things are superficial. On the outside they appeared to be major changes. However moving and starting a new job while being the same person could equal to the same results …in a new town and on a new job.
I realized that reinventing myself also has to do with:
1. Identifying habits.
2. Examining and readjusting relationships
3. Reintroducing myself to the person I always wanted to be.
Being True to Ourselves
In an effort to be “True to Oneself” consider these Four things:
1. Ask yourself once a month “Am I being true to myself?” This exercise serves as a tool of self -reflection and evaluation.
2. Challenge one habit of yours once a month. Really evaluate whether or not this habit serves you well.
3. Reassess your relationships. There’s an old saying that says you are a reflection of the 3-5 people you spend most of your time with. Be sure they are important and allow you to grow and flourish.
4. The Answer is in the way you feel. Trust your instincts.
I often tell the parable of The Talents. In short, the story talks about a master that has three servants. The master bestows “talents” onto his servants and the talents they receive match their abilities. Two of the servants take the talents and multiply them, while one servant hides his talent. When the master returns he hails his two servants who multiplied their talents and provided them with even more talents. The servant who hid his talent was scolded and his talent was taken away.
I told this story to my daughter Kennedy when she was seven years old.
I told her that we all have talents and we should showcase them to the best of our ability. She smiled and compared the talents to one of her favorite shows, “My little Pony”. She explained how each pony has a “cutie mark” that demonstrates their talents. And then she asked, “what’s your cutie mark mommy?”.
Finding the True Me
So much of my life has been dictated to me. Many decisions were not really decisions that I made, instead, many are fulfilled expectations based upon my family standards, society and other factors. But what do I really want? Who is the true Donna? Only time will tell. In the meantime, I am consciously reflecting and changing old habits.
After all, I need to find my cutie mark!